I've always considered myself an extrovert. I love being around people, making new friends, being center of attention, and making a fool of myself. I'm the first to volunteer to be a guinea pig during lectures and conferences. Being around people has always been easy. So naturally, being alone for an extended period of time was worrisome. I worried about making friends. I worried about being seen as an outcast, someone who clearly didn't fit in. I worried that my outgoing personality would be frowned upon.
Even though my Meyers-Briggs Personality Test says I'm and ENFP (Extrovert iNtuition Feeling Perceiving), I'm finding that my inner-introvert is slowly emerging. The first few weeks I was very quiet. Only spoke when spoken too, and even then my answers were short. One sentence. Maybe two. I tried so hard to conform to what I thought were the expectations of the school and society.
When I met a small group of people for a bible study, I didn't say one word for the entire 90 minutes other than, "Hello, I'm Aline." I listened. I tried to decipher the personalities of the other 4 people in the room. At the end, we all shared prayer requests. Mine was prayer for a solid schedule to be approved soon. I didn't ask for what I really needed - Strength to get through the week.
I was so frustrated with myself after because I was afraid! ME! Afraid of new people. Who was this girl?? Surely, it wasn't me. I don't think I've EVER been afraid of meeting someone new. I was a totally different person for the first 3 or 4 weeks. Shy, quiet, reveling in the alone time I was given.
watching rugby with MK, MT, and KC |
Presently, I am in my flat, alone. All of the girls are gone for half-term break, and I am here. I wasn't sure I how I would feel about these few days alone before a conference with all my UK YAGM friends, but I'm starting to love this time. I can sing at the top of my lungs. Watch movies (currently listening to "The Lizzie McGuire Movie"). Listen to music and mostly, process. It gives me the time to really think about everything that is happening here.
Today, I realized that I don't have to be one thing. I don't have to be Aline the Extrovert, or Aline the Introvert. I can just be Aline. I don't need to try to be someone that I am not. If I want to really, truly be present here, I just need to be. I need to say yes to new experiences (like being forced to try Marmite by the girls. It was bad. really bad.) I will make a true effort to get to know new people and make friends. I can claim a few already, but there are so many people I see often, and I don't know more than their name - sometimes I can't even remember that! But I am making the conscious effort to try harder. And for now that has to be enough.
~Lina
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